It’s quite remarkable just how much we continue to search for well-being and happiness from outside sources, such as a new job, new relationship, new car, hairstyle, watch, suit, dress, shoes, and the list goes on. If you take a step back and look at our general way of life, it kind of feels like we are conditioned to run around the treadmill of life constantly in need of outside things and gadgets to make us happy. Of course, we rarely get any lasting fulfillment in getting those new shoes, or whatever we long for, yet we keep doing it over and over again.
The same can definitely be said of dieting. The pattern of weight loss and regain will be very familiar to all those who struggle with weight problems. A very large part of why dieting fails is that we don’t get to the bottom of why the weight gain occurred to begin with, and, even though there are different ways of looking at this, my view is that the vast majority of weight gain comes from the inside in the form of negative thoughts and emotions. The origins of those negative thoughts and emotions can be very complex but there is no doubt that they usually make their debut during childhood and stay with us as adults, consciously or not.
Negative thoughts and emotions have a huge influence on our health and well-being, and obviously our weight, both in terms of regulating stress, metabolism and inflammation, but also lifestyle choices and habits. This is why I am convinced that any lasting weight loss is very unlikely to come from outside sources, it needs to come from within. Once you start to understand more about your thoughts and emotions, you can shed the weight in a very natural way, because, in a sense, your body will no longer have its fat storage programs activated (set-point theory) as a result of psychological and emotional distress.
Obviously it could take a while to go through such an internal cleaning process, but I also believe that it does not have to take years or decades, it’s really up to you how hard you work at it. And you should certainly get qualified support if you need it.
But if you skip working on your internal issues and instead go for what you perceive to be the easy way out, i.e. trying a solution from outside sources such as a diet, you are not likely to be successful long-term since those fat storage programs will still be activated, and the weight will likely come back on. Or you will need to be super disciplined in terms of what you eat and how much you exercise for the rest of your life. Some people manage this, but not very many (I know I wouldn’t).
In terms of losing weight long-term, I believe it’s about time we stopped fighting against our bodies and instead realized that we need to work with our bodies instead. If you are carrying excess weight, it probably means that your body has activated fat storage programs as a result of your internal distress (fat is basically a survival mechanism, and your body is reacting quite naturally to stress). Your best bet in deactivating those programs will be to find out why they are activated to begin with, and then gradually turn them off by releasing those internal distress factors.
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